Alive and Kicking – Making a Difference in a Childs Self Expression

[tweetmeme]I know of a woman who allows her children to write on the walls of her home. When I questioned this she explained that she didn’t want to thwart their creativity and full self expression.

Being from a wonderful albeit structured family environment I had a hard time imagining myself condoning this exercise. I am a Life coach for goodness sake. I encourage my clients to live out loud and live a life by design – their own design. Wouldn’t that be the case for children too? So which is it then? Provide structure and strong guidance or support the ‘anything goes’ attitude?

Someone else I know feels that she was a square peg forced to fit into a round hole during her childhood. She wanted to dance and they asked her to sit and behave. She brought home animals and they asked her to stop. She thought differently from the rest, and they demanded she conform. Now in her late 50’s finds it difficult to stretch herself beyond her comfort zone and realize her visions.

I remember at 10 years old sitting next to a woman at a wedding. I had never met her and yet she spent a lot of time talking to me as if I was an adult. She looked in my eyes; She asked me open ended questions and made me feel like a star. I am eternally grateful to what she gifted me that day and have thought of her fondly ever since. I have also made it a point to do the same to other children.

Where in your childhood did someone profoundly impact who you are today?

Being a part of the growth of any child is an honorable task. What a gift to be able to support the individuality and identity of another. I suggest we step up a bit and see what we can do today to make a difference in a child’s life. Where can you challenge them to do something unique, say something they’ve never said, experience something they haven’t yet experienced? We may never know the impact that act has on them for life, however, I venture to think they will never be the same because of it. Dare yourself to be alive and kicking and pass that on to someone else.

Hmmm, I wonder, if my clients had the opportunity to draw on a wall or dance in the rain if they would have needed to come to me to learn how to live out loud!


Fran Asaro is the CEO and founder of Thrive Any Way Personal and Business Coaching. For more information go to or call 828-FOR FRAN (828-367-3762)


One comment

  1. It’s amazing how words of encouragement can make a child light up and behave differently. I strive to honor every child I work with by helping them learn in ways that make sense to them, thus fostering positive self-esteem.


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