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Thriving with Feeling

It’s not a new concept that your thoughts are things. What you think about comes to you. As a Coach I run across many people who study the law of attraction, yet still find themselves short of their ideal life and outcome. Why is that?

It’s certainly not because one person deserves a better life then another. It could be however that a series of things are out of play.

Affirmations used to play a major role in personal development. We repeated wonderful declarations in hope for a better life.

Then we learned about direction of thought which seemed like Affirmations on steroids. If we thought about what we really wanted it would come to fruition.

After that, the concept of ‘Asking‘ became a new ingredient into the soup of making sure you express your desires. Make sure you are specific they said. (which is a bit different from my teaching – see below)

Then being open to  ‘receiving’ became the next missing link for those who still hadn’t gotten their just rewards. Know that you are worthy.

Since then, ‘aligning’ with your direct thought has become a major factor in the equation. Get into the vibration of what you want to manifest.

Are you getting tired yet? Is there an end to the formula? I am not sure. I am certainly an advocate and teacher of the law of attraction. I just want everyone to reap the rewards. So what could I possibly add to this plethora of tools to ensure that we create it all?

Well, I have a few things. Yes a few more things to add.

The first one has to do with my statement above about being specific. I have found many a person forcing themselves to be clear about what they want just so they can play the ‘game’ correctly. There they become committed to a certain amount of money, a definite type of partner or a home with all the details. If they didn’t get exactly that, they called the process a failure.

For years I have tried to lighten up the pressure of that type of commitment and asked my clients to instead get VERY SPECIFIC on how they want to FEEL when they get ‘there’. You see, we may not always know what we want but we ALWAYS know how we want to FEEL.

So my suggestion is that you align with a feeling and not a ‘thing’. Sit for a bit in silence and feel the way an ideal life feels. Peaceful, adventurous, easy, secure? There are so many choices based on your desires. For me, I love to feel ease, fun and freedom with abundant energy. Take a look and allow yourself to bask in the delights of the way you want to feel.

My second suggestion is that you bring frequency into the pot. What that means is, that you get the results directly related to the energy you put in. So if you allow yourself to feel your desired feelings for 5 minutes a day, and nothing is shaking… then do it more frequently. You deserve this.

 

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Can you be gentle and still be successful? Can you be kind, patient, thoughtful and full of integrity while moving up the ladder of life? I do believe it’s the way of the future.

As we become more adverse to hard sales, domination, intimidation, bullying, and just plain power struggles, it’s nice to know that there are those who are doing it another way.

If you have been affected by the harshness of your environment, know that there are those who support a quieter and gentler path to greatness. Yes, there are MANY who have reached mega success following a less stressful path.

For today, observe those in your industry, your social environment, spiritual community and any other circle you are in to look for the gentle giant. You may not have noticed them before, but now that you know they exist, you will see them. If this way of being appeals to you, try it on for size. At the very least, it will feel much more comfortable.

Enthusiastically,
Fran

If you are ready to move beyond your obstacles and back to your vision call Fran for a complimentary session and get a feel for Gentle Coaching.

Fran Asaro is the founder of Thrive Any Way Personal and Business Coaching
www.thriveanyway.com

954-370-8001

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[tweetmeme]Often we find ourselves in a relationship that tugs at our patience. Whether it is due to incompatibility, intolerance, control or disrespect, some people sit uncomfortably with us or downright annoy us.

I remembering hearing for years how important it was to sever such relationships for self preservation. It was a way to relieve ourselves of all the discomfort. While at some level it made sense and still does, eventually you might find yourself disconnecting or running from anyone and anything that challenges you. In time, some of us begin to feel as though all we do is end relationships and wonder if severing is the only answer. Is that you?

There are times when we can’t or no longer want to cut the cord with others. This could be because they are family or co-workers, colleagues or friends. Whatever the reason, you are not willing or able to separate yourself from them. What do you do then? Stay miserable every time you are in their company?

There is another way. It may not be as easy as cutting them off, however, it could restore your sanity when cord cutting is not an option. Severing the AFFECT that others have on you keeps you in the driver’s seat of your life. Let’s face it; people will always get your goat. They will say and do things that annoy you, they will run you off the road, they will be embarrassing to be around and they will suck all of your energy. You can’t kill them all off. So the next best thing – maybe even the most self empowering action – is to release the affect they have on you.

Easier said then done? Yes, it takes practice and intention to carry this out. Once you commit to protecting your own boundaries emotionally and physically, others will no longer have the same impact on you as they once did. People can only affect you when you allow them to infringe on your personal boundary. When you stand strong on what you will and will not let into your own thoughts, feelings and physical self, you become the keeper of your mood, your power and your sense of well being.

Options – sometimes that’s all we need to know in order to feel better in these situations. Knowing that we can choose to sever or not provides a sense of relief. So, the next time you are feeling completely affected by someone else and severing is not possible, know you have one more resource. Know that you are in charge of your boundaries. Know that you can learn to rise above and even beyond the impact others have on you and your world.

Enthusiastically,
Fran
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