My Hero invested in me many years ago and changed the course of my life forever as well as the course for others. That’s why I say,
‘If you Believe in Them, Invest in Them’
Be someone’s Hero and the reason for their success.
Having a vision without the proper resources is one of the most restricting feelings you can imagine. Some may have a dream of starting a small business while others are fantasizing about changing the world in some way. There are those who just want to break out of the old and rebuild their lives. The reasons are endless. Motivated people may have education and no platform or others have no education but they have drive and determination Either way, when you are ready to leave your mark and you don’t have the tools, it beats down on you… day after day after day after day.
When I was 21 years old I convinced my husband at the time to open an Auto Body Repair Shop. He was well-trained in a vocational school and very good at his trade. I had the background of administration and sales. We had no clue what we were doing but we knew we wanted to do it. No formal college, not a dime to our name. Just drive and passion.
I kept saying, ‘what have we got to lose.’ Even back then (almost 40 years ago) I knew the gold in being an entrepreneur and even though the businesses may have changed, I never looked back to consider corporate America…ever.
What do you do when you have talent, drive, and desire but little or no money? For us, we called HERO, my father. We asked him to borrow $2000 to rent a warehouse. He agreed and I insisted we had a formal payment plan with interest. I drew it up and he signed it. It felt so official.
We didn’t know what to do after that but we figured it out. We got a line of credit from a really supportive paint supplier who stocked our shop with all our necessary supplies for months. They too invested in us. We purchased a beat-up old desk from the phone company and put up a shed in our 900 sq ft warehouse to use as our office because we didn’t have the money to build a real one. We improvised. We knocked on doors for business. We followed up on every lead we had. We eagerly sat outside our warehouse at the end of every day until we finally got our first customer.
Who do you think was the proudest? YES, my father was proud. He was proud from year one. He, being retired, would come in and help out. Everything from driving cars to dealerships we were doing work for, to sweeping the floor.
He was THAT proud of us.
It took us about 2 years to pay back that $2000. We struggled. We ate fish almost every night that my husband had caught and ran up a department store credit card to buy dog food and necessities. We had a blast!! After all, it was OURS and we got to build something amazing. We had a blast even before the break came when all of a sudden we found that we could afford things. First, we bought a car, then a new boat. THEN we took a cruise to Alaska and bought a bigger home. That all began only 5 years into our launching the business.
Do you think my father took responsibility for our success? You’re damned right he did. I am sure he shared about us with his friends all the time! My ex, Frankie and I still reminisce about those good times. Our friends still share about those times. It was something special.
I share this story with you because imagine if my Hero / father hadn’t invested in us. Where would we be? Working jobs. Yes. Earning a nice income, I’m sure. But what we got from having someone believe in us and growing something from a seed was priceless. Since then I had a lucrative Real Estate career and a wonderful coaching business. And guess what? I help others start new businesses. It’s a gift I want to give everyone who has that passion.
As someone who is approached by many entrepreneur wannabes, the part that frustrates me is when they can’t afford me. I kept my fees the same for 12 years to help. I have had my share of ProBono clients to help out. I have become creative to offer affordable support to those who want it. I created groups at my home for women entrepreneurs to teach them about business. All they paid was $5 and if they didn’t have it, they were invited anyway. I do what I can. Today I would like to go a step further.
I’d like to invite the loved ones of these Superstars to come forward and help them out.
They may have asked you for financial support in the past and you declined or they may be too proud to ask. Either way, if you know your loved one has a passion and is challenged by financial resources, offer them help. They may need schooling, coaching or just someone to encourage them to go forward.
Who Invested in You and Changed Your Life Forever? Who was YOUR Hero?
If someone else invested in you, and gave you a future that wouldn’t have been possible otherwise, then this may be your opportunity to pay it forward. If no one invested in you, this maybe be your opportunity to give to someone what you wish had been given to you and change a life forever, including yours.
If you or someone you know has a loved one who needs a partner to help them move forward don’t ignore a creative mind. We need them. If you don’t know how to help, there are many ways. One is that you can consider my Virtual Partner program. It’s a one on one video call experience where we walk through all phases of their needs. I hung up my coaching title and took on this title because its a less authoritative experience. Still, it has a leadership level of support with resources beyond your imagination. It’s just gentler and more freedom based. It consists of all my years of entrepreneurial wisdom combined with fun, empowerment and motivation.
If you think this is something your loved one would love to have, then let’s talk or just go to my Virtual Partner siteand take a look at some of what I offer. If this is NOT what they need, contact me anyway and I’ll help you find what works for your situation.
Please be the hero in someone’s life, believe in them, be proud of them, INVEST in them. They are not the only ones who will benefit. YOU too will be rewarded with the fulfilling feeling of making a difference in someone’s life.
I get to see and hear it all. ‘Oh, if I could just get organized, I would be dangerous!’. ‘I’m going to do it this year, I promise!’. I spent $5000 on this course learning how to do it, so I will now DO IT!’ But really all I eventually hear is: I’ll get to it later. That’s why I am listing the 8 Massively Important Entrepreneurial projects that get ignored. Because below are some of the heavyweights in your business that often get treated as unimportant right now and get swept under the rug until ‘someday’.
Truth is, most projects never get completed. By the time some entrepreneurs get ready to tackle a long-desired project, things change, trends change and they have to start back at square one to be up to date.
What have you been keeping on the shelf while you do the less significant and potent tasks like reading emails? How much time and money are you spending on learning how to do the stuff you never, ever make time to do?
I don’t mean to sound harsh here but when are you going to focus on the heavyweight projects that make you money, make your life easier and grow your business?
It’s the New Year. You’ve probably made many resolutions about health, business and relationships. Right? Well, let’s
spend this time together focusing on the business side of your resolutions.
First of all, you are not alone in this vicious cycle of not doing or I wouldn’t be writing about it. And to be honest, I suffer from ‘Too Many Projects on the Shelf Syndrome’ myself. Chances are, those who have it together in this area are not even reading this. It’s just us!
Below are what I as a business coach consider some of the top projects that get ignored or at the very least, put on the back burner for way too long! Many of them are foundational and instrumental in building a solid business base. Most of these projects take thought and time to build, set up or create. They are typically Leadership type projects that can be passed along to a Virtual Assistant once they are created. But FIRST they must be created. Take baby steps and just start making steady headway. Before you resist any of these, consider that many if not all of these will simplify your business, which is what we all want, don’t we? For those of you who can’t bear to think about tackling these projects alone, don’t worry, I offer my services below!
– Setting up a working contact management system appears to have gone out the window. So many entrepreneurs don’t even have one. They often consider their email list their system. (if they have that!)
I am an advocate for industry related software systems that manage your contacts. I had one when I was a realtor for 25 years, which helped catapult me to one of the top realtors in my company. I have one now as a coach and I will continue to have and utilize the features because it makes my life easier and hey, it’s more professional, even when I am not!
If you don’t have or can’t get an industry related program, find one that works for you. One where you can input data about your clients, names, addresses, email addresses, phone numbers and notes. Add birthdays and names of their kids and pets and spouses. One that has autoresponder capabilities and billing if you can. When everything is integrated, it makes life so much easier. It takes time to set up, but you will be so happy you did.
My coaching software program allows me to create products and newsletters, does billing and creates lead pages. I have scheduling capabilities, reports and so much more. If you are a coach take a look.
Don’t take this one lightly. Being able to ‘touch’ your clients at any time is worth it’s weight in gold.
SYSTEMATIZING YOUR BUSINESS
– What? Many entrepreneurs are winging it at business. They just keep doing what
they do well and never stop to breathe let alone plan and structure their business to some day run itself or be sellable for that matter.
Systematizing your business sounds intense, but if we look at the way well-oiled businesses run, it’s because they have a system in place. You don’t need to have a large business to do this. As a matter of fact, starting a system while you are smaller, would help you develop it better.
Create a marketing system that you can bank on instead of marketing just when you get around to it. Design a management system that includes planning and developing as well as admin and organizations systems. Create hours and schedules that you and your clients adhere to. Create a system for your products, suppliers and billing. As you start implementing new systems create an operation manual for others to follow for when you grow. Keep it simple. You can even create one with mini videos.
Oh my. This is a biggie. I once had a client come to me complaining that she had no business and couldn’t pay her bills. She admittedly and proudly shared that she spent most of her day learning about her trade. While it’s honorable to do so, there is such a thing called balance. When I suggested she market her business which she had not been doing, she replied that she didn’t have time for that. She was too busy learning. I told her that was why she didn’t have any money. I never saw her again.
Infinite Marketing. The rule is that you NEVER stop marketing. EVER! Not when you are too busy, not when you have little or no funds, not when you are on vacation and certainly not when you can’t come up with marketing ideas.
Times have changed and while some marketing is costly, there are literally no excuses for not marketing with all the free resources out there. Do what you can for free until you can afford to pay for someone to do it for you or for a more sophisticated marketing system.
BUILDING YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA PRESENCE
– Since we are talking about free to inexpensive marketing, I thought I should remind you about growing your online presence with social media. Whether you are an extrovert, introvert, internet savvy or all thumbs, social media is doable. If you can’t get started, find someone who can help you. The upkeep is minimal once you do. The idea is to be visible in the eyes of your target audience, so they know you are in business. It takes a lot more to make a sale these days then it did before social media, but it’s still the best way to get yourself out there with a tight budget.
SCHEDULING YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA MARKETING
– Being smart about what you spend your time on can make or break your success. Some people spend all day posting on Social Media and have little time to do what they do for a living! If you are a small business, consider outsourcing some of these tasks. It may look like a cost, but in the long run, you will save money. A few inexpensive avenues for outsourcing are fiverr.com and Upwork.com
– Did you ever hear the term ‘sitting on a goldmine’? Well, often, entrepreneurs keep chasing the new and unknown when they are sitting on a warm and ready client in their repertoire of names and numbers. Some are just too darn scared to make a call while others don’t even know where the heck they put that number from that person who was very interested. Your contact management system will help to a certain point with follow-up, such as emails and reminders, but guess what? You have to communicate with them to close the sale. If you don’t have the skills to properly convey your products or services, then that should be a priority. Get trained in communicating to your target audience. Learn how to create a nurturing campaign and sales funnel and ultimately to ask for the sale. People will not always throw themselves at you to buy. Sometimes you have to romance them.
– Well, that doesn’t sound like a project, does it? Oh, but it IS! There is an art to Time Management or as I teach, Time Freedom. It’s actually the glue that holds everything else together. Without proper time management you won’t be able to accomplish anything, so much as the big projects. Learn to compartmentalize your time and you will be able to complete EVERYTHING. Contact me if you want a private lesson on creating a time management system for yourself. Look for my upcoming Time Freedom digital mini course.
– Affiliate programs are like a sophisticated referral program. You can have one for your business. When someone recommends you or posts about you online, they would be given a personalized link that would credit them with the sale. It’s a great way to grow your business and reap the rewards of other people’s connections.
There are also affiliate programs where you get rewarded for passing along other people’s products. If you love sharing about your favorite finds, then you might as well get paid for them right? Every time I fall in love with a product or service, I ask to join their affiliate program. They are usually thrilled to have me and I am twice as likely to share about them now that I get paid. I share about those I support whether they have an affiliate program or not. Some of the links in this article are affiliate links. I will tell you that it’s nice to get unexpected checks or deposits just for sharing.
BONUS * BONUS * BONUS
This is One of my all time favorite things to help my clients with
because they typically won’t initiate it themselves
– One of the best ways to leverage your income is to create products for your business. Whether it’s a digital product or a class that you teach or a package that you put together. Taking what you know and selling it a 1000 times will surely help financially. Most entrepreneurs would love to productize their business. They either don’t know what to create, don’t know how to create it or don’t make the time. It does take some learning to productize your business, but worth every bit of it in the long run. Take classes or become self-taught. If you want to productize your businesses try my Virtual Project Partner Program
So here are my top projects that get ignored by entrepreneurs. If you can think of more or have something to comment on, please do so below. Please Like and/or share this article if you found it beneficial.
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Many people are stuck when it comes to their To Do List, and could become immediately UNSTUCK if they only had a partner to accomplish their goals with. Let’s face it, something magical happens when you have support from someone who genuinely cares that you succeed. Don’t you agree? If you think this is you, then stop beating yourself up and start honoring the need to have a partner in accomplishing your goals. Contact Fran for more information.
Think about all of your amazing projects and ideasjust sitting there stagnant on your mental shelf …. you know, that digital product you want to create or those social media ads you want to put together. Maybe you want to organize and systematize your business or home but never get started. What do you think it’s costing you to have those tasks just SIT?
Now, imagine if you started completing them one by one…. comfortably, with a partner who will stay with you until they are DONE! How would that feel? You’d probably feel a huge relief from guilt and stress, right? You may also feel a long needed sense of pride of accomplishment. Yes, you can take a deep breath and feel it! Contact Fran for more information.
Just know that you are not alone in needing support, or this program would not exist. When people find out that they are not procrastinators, but in fact they just do better with a partner, they feel as though they honored a real need and took affirmative action. The results of finally having completed projects are the proof! It’s similar to when someone finds out they have dyslexia and instead of beating themselves up, they realize that they just need to do things a little different.
It’s About Having a Brainstorming and Motivational Confidant, Even if you Have an Admin or Virtual Assistant.
If you are looking to relax into the wisdom of another, where you can feel the ease of sharing the burden, then Project Partnering may be a good fit for you. It’s a wonderful experience to know there is another leader to fall back on. Someone you can call ‘partner, without devoting 50% of your profits to. Choose well; someone who will do it WITH you and not FORyou. Savvy, successful people know when to hire a professional to accomplish what they need.
As a life and business coachfor many years, I find that my clients often do much better with ‘hand holding’ while tackling projects. I really love it when we get on an interactive screen-sharing call as we make progress completing their website or even creating an online store together. The real-time conversation has us both on the same page, getting the job done much faster and with more ease. Most times I take the wheel as you direct, interact or just oversee the project, but we could always reverse the role if you want me to support you being the driver.
There are limitless projects we can do together from programming phones, setting up electronics, minor computer tweaking, launching a social media contest to creating marketing plans. Heck, I’ve even been on a call where I supported a client while he cleaned out his storage unit. (you know who you are!). Contact Fran for more information.
So what are you looking to accomplish? What’s been gnawing at you for way too long?
Do you need someone to sit with you while you complete a project?
Would you like me to create graphics while you supervise?
Are you interested in opening an online store and it’s just too overwhelming to do alone?
How about learning to schedule all your social media so you do it once and let it run itself?
Does the idea of having someone to brainstorm with about the future of your business or life sound appealing?
Get creative if you want to. We can get your contact management system started, design a logo or write a blog. The point is, you just don’t have to do it alone any more!
It’s interactive, fun and productive as we collaborate on accomplishing your goals. Since you get to participate in the experience, you reap the reward of a completed task.
Oh, by the way, these interactive calls are casual, light and even fun! Come as you are to your computer. We sign in together, share a screen and start working on the project at hand. At the end of each call, plan to feel a sense of accomplishment, partnership and motivation to keep going! Contact Fran for more information.
To get started all you need to do is Contact Fran for more information and download your access to Zoom – a free screen sharing program. We can record our sessions for your future reference.
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What inspired me to share 27 major reasons why people choose and online business –
I became a business coach many years ago after having 2 successful businesses since I was 21. I loved sharing my experiences with others to help shorten their path to success. Over time, I realized that my entrepreneurial skills were morphing into opportunities with more ease and freedom. My commitment was to help people have a lifestyle supporting business, not just give them a JOB. Eventually, I decided since I am an online business builder that I wanted to help others do the same thing. I now help people create the right online business for themselves. One that truly resonates with them and their abilities, vision and financial means. It’s so rewarding to be a part of someone else’s joyful moments.
I will be writing a lot about online business from now on. I still help entrepreneurs of any kind, but my real love is providing a flexible and freedom based opportunity for others. I have so many online business ideas to share, I can’t hold them all in!
I put together this list of why people choose to start an online business. If you see yourself in this list, that’s wonderful. I hope you take action in achieving your goal. If you would like help getting started, contact me. I can help!
27 Major Reasons Why people choose an Online Business
1. Flexible lifestyle – Make your own schedule, work from anywhere
2. Easy to start and earn money quickly
3. No set hours, No traffic, No boss, No office politics
4. Typically, low startup costs
5. Stay home with the kids
6. So many online businesses to choose from
7. More people are using the internet to purchase products and services
8. They work a full-time job and want to make extra money while still being home
9. Global access to target market – available 24/7
10. They are in control of their earning potential
11. They can design their business to suit their lifestyle needs, financial budget and skills
12. An opportunity to utilize thwarted creativity and innovation
13. Because they need to work alone or at home due to personal circumstances such as anxiety,
physical handicap, legal issues, personal circumstances
14. They are retiring and want to work age appropriately
15. They are a student and they want to work around classes
16. You can actually be free of in person appointments and networking groups!
17. You can run multiple online businesses simultaneously
18. Financial transactions are easy
19. You can provide better customer support
20. You can build a team by outsourcing to other online professionals
21. Can be automated – Many online businesses make money while you sleep
22. You can offer a huge amount of information about you and your business in one place
23. Cost savings on office space, employees, equipment, inventory, insurances
24. Internet marketing is much more affordable than traditional marketing
25. Online business is typically environmentally friendly, saving on paper, electricity, gas
26. It’s fun and feels good to run your own online business!
27. It works!! Online businesses are making loads of money
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Fran Asaro is a Life and Business Coach and founder of Thrive Any Way. Helping people systematize and automate their business and create an online presence. Find out more about how she helps entrepreneurs with her Virtual Project Partner Program.For questions or to schedule and appointment – Contact Fran Asaro
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A Story to help Women Entrepreneurs who are lost and disillusioned. Before reading, I would like to invite you to listen from a particular place. A place where you can either see yourself and gain strength from it or a place where you think of someone who is struggling and will pass it along to support them. It’s a bit lengthy. So, take your time – you deserve it.
2 1/2 years ago I ran away from home. Just for the record, I am a grown woman – and I lived alone at the time. What could possibly have caused me to pack up and walk away from a wonderful life filled with great friends and family. Why would I run away from a prolific community of women that I created and adored. What could have been so confronting that I nearly abandoned the career that touched my soul and help me touch others? Maybe things weren’t as great at I thought…
I am a life-long entrepreneur. I started an auto body repair shop with my ex-husband at 21 years old. We borrowed $2000 to open it and years later when I left it was generating almost $1 million per year. I loved creating that business from scratch and honoring our dream. We achieved a level of success that was rare for kids our age. Following my divorce I became a Realtor. After years of struggling to build something worth while, I found myself in the top 6% of my company in the world. Who knew? I loved building my business to a success, making my own rules as I went along. I took incredible pride in creating 2 successful businesses while following my own path.
I was not romanced by the money these businesses produced as much as I was haunted by the need to do something that felt deeply purposeful to me. The intense pull to become a life coach had been in my consciousness for many years. Even before I knew there was a name for it. Somewhat jokingly, my sister says I had been a coach since I was 3. People of all ages would come to me for inspiration and wise words. Sometimes I thought ‘Why me’? But to be honest, I fully embraced my gift of soothing others. It fit like a glove.
I threw my hat over the proverbial wall
After years of staying in a less than rewarding real estate career, I semi-courageously threw my hat over the wall and dove head first into the unknown. I became a Coach. I named my company Thrive Any Way because similar to my own life lessons, I wanted to help others Thrive beyond their limiting situations and thoughts.
I was on cloud 9 if you could imagine. Here I was, doing what I had longed to do for so many years. I was getting paid to do what I passionately loved and was quite effective at. I was successful very quickly. I created women’s groups and I volunteered my time teaching self-esteem to domestic violence victims. I was so in my groove that I would cry from joy and content. Somehow I magnetically attracted all the clients I needed with minimal effort and I was on my way to a very comfortable lifestyle. I decided since I now had a mobile business that could live anywhere so I moved from my home of 36 years in South Florida and relocated to Stuart, Florida, where I knew no one (for a short time). I sunk my teeth into my new town and met so many incredible people. I redesigned my business to be more face to face so that I could work with local groups and individuals. I had this vision for a few years and it was finally manifested. I couldn’t be happier!
From Perfection to a disheartening realization
I chose to focus my coaching career on Women Entrepreneurs. After all, I was one, and had a load of experience to share. I began a weekly women’s group to teach entrepreneurship. I charged $5 to attend, but really, anyone could come. The group grew organically and flourished with the most amazingly talented women. I couldn’t have dreamed up something this big! I can’t tell you how much fun it was, and how I was in my element just sharing my failures and successes in order to shorten the path of others. I loved helping women get through the challenges that come with being in business. The fears, the emotional ride, the keeping it all together and of course, the balance. I also taught the standards like marketing, communication and how to structure a business that suited their desired lifestyle. It was such a pleasant and rewarding experience for all of us.
However, eventually the ‘business’ of helping women entrepreneurs thrive caught on and the industry became saturated with opportunity to have more. Books, programs and mega coaching became the trend. The days of personalized, private coaching became a secondary option to mass training.
I began to observe a pattern that became troubling for me. As I watched women enthusiastically jump into entrepreneurship, somewhere along the line they didn’t look satisfied. I observed these women running around (literally and figuratively) chasing success. Off they went to seminar after seminar, networking groups, masterminds, luncheons and purchasing product after product. All in hopes of ‘making it’. Now these are all good things in and of themselves and even quite fun to a point. I’ve purchased products and even created some of my own. But eventually it becomes overkill. These women were exhausting to watch and be around. They didn’t come across as successful, just needy. They spent more time distracted by something outside themselves then in their business. Suddenly, ‘there’ seemed better than ‘here’ and the conversations always lead to another ‘thing’ that was going to save them, make them, help them. I stood back and watched and was completely saddened. I knew only too well the vicious cycle they were on and am so grateful that when I got caught up in a similar circle, someone dear to me pointed it out and I have been mindful of what I choose to expose myself to ever since.
Disillusionment kills the spirit
I’m sure many people face the evolution of their chosen career and have to make a choice of whether to conform or not. I can change with the times like it’s nobody’s business, but I became disillusioned by what was happening to my beautiful industry. The very one that took my breath away just a few years earlier. I became so confused. Did I now hate coaching or did I hate what happened to it? It suddenly became a numbers game and who were the losers? Those that needed heartfelt partnership and got generalized support.
I tried to go with it. I tried to do it the new way. The more I did, the less joy I felt and the less I wanted to be here. I went through so many internal thoughts. ‘Maybe I’m not really a coach, maybe what I am is something else and I am in the wrong career’. ‘Have I become a dinosaur? Like the one I talk to my clients about; where I am not up to the times?’ These and many other thoughts began to kill my spirit and love for my work. All I wanted to do was help women pace themselves so that they could have a more balanced life. Women NEED a balanced life with family, friends, me-time and partner time. I wanted to help them do business like a woman. And for those who started a business late in life, I wanted to help them do age appropriate business and not like a 20 year old.
The Conscious Capitalist leaves home
I love to make lots of money. I love stuff. I was trained at a very young age to make lots of money. When I was 18 I worked in phone sales. I made $1000 per week in the late 70’s. That was about 5 times a normal income at the time. Sales training became part of my education throughout my life and I was very successful because of it. I don’t know if it’s my age talking or the line or work that I am in, but one day I realized I needed to throw all my sales training out the window and begin to connect with people on a different level. Breaking old patterns of sales techniques became one of the toughest things I have ever had to do. To this day even though I connect to my clients on a very deep level, I feel like my marketing comes across like a used car salesmen. (no offense, just a visual)
With my disillusionment about my career and my inability to convey myself effectively to those who would genuinely benefit from my gifts, I stepped away from my life and business. I didn’t know that at the time exactly, but in retrospect, I was.
An indefinite Good-Bye
There were a series of events leading up to my running away. I stopped magnetically drawing clients to me while in my state of unknowing. I didn’t quite understand what was happening but at some level I didn’t want to keep up a lie, pretending I belonged in this same space that I created. Ironically, the beautiful home I rented for 3 years was no longer available. I now look at that as a blessing since money became scarce. I felt like a woman without a purpose. I wasn’t unhappy, just lost in a passion without a home. Since it was the heart of the tourist season and difficult to find a home, I decided to go stay with a friend for a while who lived a few hours away. I didn’t know it would turn out to be a long while.
Before I left, my women’s group gave me an emotional sendoff. A party that still touches my heart with testimonials and loads of love. I walked away with such inner conflict. I loved them but I didn’t love who I was for them. I knew deep in my heart I had more to give. I resented the amount of hours I put into creating a group that didn’t light me up any more or speak to the new version of me that I had to offer. I didn’t know how to make that transition right there in front of them. So, leaving helped. But it also scared the daylights out of me. Was I ever going to come home? Would I reconnect with my group? What would my new version of life look like?
Opposition thwarts Growth
How many of us try to honor our path to healing or growth but others don’t support us in that? We take so much longer to get there while trying to dodge the opposition, right? There I was in Ocala, Florida, staying with a dear friend and his father. I thought it was going to be for a few weeks, a month at the most, before I went back home. I had no idea how lost I really was. I would sit in front of my computer day in and day out doing what I normally do. Working. Working. Learning. Creating. For what? I couldn’t tap into my groove. Did I lose it? All I know is that I kept my coaching business to a minimum with a few select clients while I immersed myself in meditation, self inquiry and a lot of rest to try to figure it all out.
For many years I felt a pull to spend time in a monastery to clear myself for a new beginning. I could never make that commitment because I have pets and didn’t want to leave them for a long period of time. I decided to look at this experience as a quasi monastery. I was in a beautiful home on a lake. I had very little distraction and I had a lot of time to rethink my life. This could really work.
Then the opposition began trickling in. I didn’t have to let it in, but I did. ‘What’s wrong?’ , ‘When are you coming home’? ‘What are you working on?’ ‘How could someone so smart be having such a tough time’, ‘What’s taking so long?’
I was in a very cushy environment. I could have just focused on what I was there to do and nothing else. But no! I allowed my own ‘make wrong’ thoughts and those of others to steer me towards putting out less than authentic versions of me. Who was I to have the luxury of not working, dammit. ‘Fran, put something out there so people know you are alive’. So I did. and it felt uncomfortable. It wasn’t necessarily the wrong material. It was the wrong timing. I was in healing and recreating mode. I needed to honor whatever time required. The problem was that I couldn’t soothe those who were concerned about me. I couldn’t convey that this was a ‘good’ time. I couldn’t convey it to myself either.
Part Two of my Journey – My Teacher appears
This story would be a book if I shared every detail of my experience. I will eventually share between the lines, but not today. After a year and a half in Ocala, where I felt I was complete with the experience of being there but still had no idea what that meant for my future, I got a phone call from friends of 30 years. They invited me to come stay with them in Raleigh, NC for a priceless exchange of energy. One of them being that I was going to be living with my most influential teacher ever. How perfect can things get?
Living with a teacher you absolutely adore is not always comfortable. I found out that I am not always coachable! Go figure! But after staying for a year, so much was absorbed and I hope retained. While I am still processing an enormous amount, I realize that the path I was on and bucking was not the issue but the resistance towards it was. I have resisted who I am for my community. I have resisted the magnitude of my gifts and the amount of women who truly need what I have to offer. I resisted that the pace and the way I want to do business does not make me a dinosaur and that I AM in fact a coach. Not only did all of this shift my life, but it makes me excited to share it with other women looking to find themselves in their life and business. While I still love to teach the facets of entrepreneurship, my passion is to clear the space for it to happen with ease and joy. That truly lights me up!
The Gentler Me Emerges
One of the areas of focus with my teacher was to develop the left side of my brain. I lived in a self-created bubble – as a Pollyanna. I was quite proud of the life where I avoided all negativity and adversity. But apparently great leaders don’t live in bubbles. They manage adversity. So I was intensely exposed to so much male energy that I thought I would die! I watched the news, politics, sci-fi and technology shows. I signed up for computer programming, math classes and purchased an electronics starter kit. I even went to a ham radio festival! Most importantly, I became a successful gamer who shoots and uses a sword (yes there were tears when I killed my first alien). With gaming I learned to buck up in challenging situations. I learned to defend myself instead of run away. I learned I am so much stronger than I allowed myself to be because I thought it would take away the gentle part of me that I loved and put forward.
At first I was so upset with the initial invasion of my male side. However, I was comforted from the very beginning that building my left brain would not create a more masculine Fran. So, while I plan to continue stimulating my left side, I am proud to say that I feel more gentle and loving than ever. I will now be bringing both sides of me to a situation and I feel more prepared to support a balanced life. I am eternally grateful to the man who brought me to tears because of my resistance to being WHOLE!
As I approach the end of this part of my journey I am not clear as to what’s next. Apparently I still have a few more miles to go. What I do know is that I will embrace the unknown much better and I will pass along what I know to those who see themselves in this experience.
My message for you today is this: You don’t have to run away to connect to your inner home.
A dinosaur is a term used for those who are behind the times in technology and business. Maybe there was a time when you were ON YOUR GAME and well paid for it. Or maybe there was a time you were a whiz at something but that something has become ‘nothing’ and you don’t know what the NEW thing is all about. What happened? Well, life happens, and just like when you purchase electronics and they become outdated the moment you walk out the door with them, the same goes for any of us who may have ‘left’ our industry. Did we become extinct?
Well, what happened is that things really changed and all of a sudden you don’t know how to use Microsoft office anymore and what the heck happened to just mailing out your marketing pieces? When did life start going so fast and how did I miss it?
Whether you stepped out to be a stay at home parent, decided to do something different or maybe you just re-entered the work world after a long time away for personal reasons, things change and if you didn’t stay on top of them, I’m sorry to say, you are now considered a dinosaur.
So what do you do? Do you have to go back to school? Start all over? Give up? They are all options of course, but as a life and business coach who works with many baby boomers who are starting over for many reasons including transitioning from corporate America to Entrepreneurship or living out a life’s passion to make a difference in the world, I know only too well how challenging it can be to delve into the world of the new and different.
While I always encourage my clients to get educated in some way about what’s new in business, I want to speak to those who are repulsed by the thought of learning something they don’t care about or can’t comprehend.
I’m here to tell you that being successful even though you are a dinosaur is very doable. Many people are doing it right now. You may not even recognize a fellow dinosaur because they are implementing some of the following tips and to be honest, they look like they know what they are doing!
Take a look below and before you throw in the towel on your vision, give your new adventure another try. Even if the items below still scare the daylights out of you, keep reading and do those things that you are willing. Who knows, the rest may fall into place. Dinosaurs typically move slowly…. But they move just the same.
Here are my top 7 Tips to go from Dinosaur to Dynamo. You can do this!!!
List of your strengths and weaknesses – Right now you may feel like a dinosaur in ALL areas of business. Chances are you are only falling short in a few. Make a list of those things you feel confident in. Then make a list of the areas where you need support or training. Now that you have more clarity, you will be able to fill in the gaps more easily. Example: You many be excellent in your trade or with Networking but you are computer challenged and don’t even know what Social Media is and why it’s important.
Subscribe to your industry related magazine – Most industries have a magazine that will keep you up to date on the changes being made and how to keep up. Find yours and read it religiously. Even if the wording is foreign, absorb what you can. Read the rest of these tips to help with the vague areas.
Research industry related software programs – I have had 3 separate industry related software programs in my career and I will tell you that it was a life saver and a business creator. When you invest in a program specifically for your business, the creators of the software KNOW your world and usually provide what you need to look like a pro instantly. These features often include a contact management system, a ready built website, a blog, a predesigned autoresponder program, invoicing and so much more. They often offer a free trial for 30 days. Try it by adding a few sample clients to it and test it out. Warning, once again, if you are a true dinosaur, this will be very confronting – your job is NOT to learn it completely, but to know your options for future action.
Seek out Freelancers – If you are really great at what you do and yet you aren’t great with marketing or social media, I hope you realize that your talents mean something. I always say, ‘you don’t have to do everything; you just need to get it done’. Learn who is out there serving people just like you – those who need help in marketing and technology. There are many sites where you can hire a freelancer, two of my favorites are fiverr.com (where most items are only $5) and Upwork.com (where you can hire a professional from all over the world at very affordable prices) You are NOT alone as a dinosaur and there are people who cater to you… REALLY
Build your Team – Invest in outsourcing – You may be thinking, “I don’t have the funds to build a team”. I certainly understand that. I too have been in that predicament. I have been known to hire someone for just 2 hours a week until I could do more. Most of my trial people moved on to full time employees or outsourced professionals. Once you choose your team of desired business vendors, start outsourcing slowly. Choose a budget and find the largest need. Start with one freelancer at first and build as you get steadier.
Join an existing team – As a former Realtor, I am often approached to coach new Realtors. Many of them are full-fledged self-starters and I am able to help them be autonomous in the business. However, there are those who are neither able to nor interested in doing all the facets of their industry. Or maybe they are not willing to put in all the hours that are necessary to build themselves. To those people I suggest they join a team of people who strategically work together where each provides a piece of the business puzzle. One may get leads, one may do leg work or review contracts and others may do administrative work. If you don’t want to build your own team, then join one. If you are a coach, join a coaching group. Chances are there is a co-op or group in your industry either locally or on-line.
Hire a Coach – Speaking of Coach – Hiring a coach who can help you with resources, structure and motivation is always to your advantage. Look at how many successful people out there have their own coach. Why shouldn’t you? I will strongly suggest this however, many coaches go at their own pace and if you join a program of theirs and you are a dinosaur, chances are you will fall behind. Find a coach who will give you personal service and go at YOUR pace, not theirs.
These are just a few of the ways a ‘dinosaur’ can thrive in business. It’s possible and it’s done all the time. What you want to do is trust yourself if you feel inclined to build a business and trust that there is a way to get there in spite of your limitations. Just so you know; we ALL have limitations. A good business person typically does not do it ALL anyway. We don’t call them a dinosaur, we call them SMART! So get smart and let someone else help you shine.
This article will probably raise some eyebrows. I do hope it raises those that could really use it.
Are you over performing in life and possibly under-achieving? I work with many people who are out there day after day, beating the pavement, going to workshops, taking classes, organizing, envisioning and doing everything they are being told to do. Often the results are not satisfying. Is that you?
If you’ve been operating at a pace that isn’t yours but you think you need to in order to succeed, think again.
If we are supposed to be doing it someone else’s way than why are so many people still struggling? I know there are many people out there who have amazing programs and systems that do work. But if you have tried and tried and it hasn’t, then don’t beat yourself up. While they work for some or many, they don’t work for all.
No need to let that worry you. If you are not succeeding doing it someone else’s way then consider doing it yours! What does that mean? It means to start listening to your own inner guidance system that will show you what to do. Begin sitting in silence and asking and listening for your personal direction. Believe it or not, this is the shortest path to your vision. It really is.
Life isn’t supposed to hurt. I see so many people hurting in spite of their actions. Maybe the actions need to be more inspired than received at a seminar.
No one says you have to stop learning. Just be particular about what you allow into your belief system. Does it feel like a good fit? Or does it feel like it may be good for someone else but not for you? It’s ok not to follow a very successful person if it doesn’t feel right.
Today, take some time to plan your own path and feel the difference.