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dinosaur-to-dynamo-2Are you a dinosaur?

A dinosaur is a term used for those who are behind the times in technology and business. Maybe there was a time when you were ON YOUR GAME and well paid for it. Or maybe there was a time you were a whiz at something but that something has become ‘nothing’ and you don’t know what the NEW thing is all about. What happened? Well, life happens, and just like when you purchase electronics and they become outdated the moment you walk out the door with them, the same goes for any of us who may have ‘left’ our industry. Did we become extinct?

Well, what happened is that things really changed and all of a sudden you don’t know how to use Microsoft office anymore and what the heck happened to just mailing out your marketing pieces? When did life start going so fast and how did I miss it?

Whether you stepped out to be a stay at home parent, decided to do something different or maybe you just re-entered the work world after a long time away for personal reasons, things change and if you didn’t stay on top of them, I’m sorry to say, you are now considered a dinosaur.

So what do you do? Do you have to go back to school? Start all over? Give up? They are all options of course, but as a life and business coach who works with many baby boomers who are starting over for many reasons including transitioning from corporate America to Entrepreneurship or living out a life’s passion to make a difference in the world, I know only too well how challenging it can be to delve into the world of the new and different.

While I always encourage my clients to get educated in some way about what’s new in business, I want to speak to those who are repulsed by the thought of learning something they don’t care about or can’t comprehend.

I’m here to tell you that being successful even though you are a dinosaur is very doable. Many people are doing it right now. You may not even recognize a fellow dinosaur because they are implementing some of the following tips and to be honest, they look like they know what they are doing!

Take a look below and before you throw in the towel on your vision, give your new adventure another try. Even if the items below still scare the daylights out of you, keep reading and do those things that you are willing. Who knows, the rest may fall into place. Dinosaurs typically move slowly…. But they move just the same.

Here are my top 7 Tips to go from Dinosaur to Dynamo. You can do this!!!

  1. List of your strengths and weaknesses – Right now you may feel like a dinosaur in ALL areas of business. Chances are you are only falling short in a few. Make a list of those things you feel confident in. Then make a list of the areas where you need support or training. Now that you have more clarity, you will be able to fill in the gaps more easily.  Example: You many be excellent in your trade or with Networking but you are computer challenged and don’t even know what Social Media is and why it’s important.
  2. Subscribe to your industry related magazine – Most industries have a magazine that will keep you up to date on the changes being made and how to keep up. Find yours and read it religiously. Even if the wording is foreign, absorb what you can. Read the rest of these tips to help with the vague areas.
  3. Research industry related software programs – I have had 3 separate industry related software programs in my career and I will tell you that it was a life saver and a business creator. When you invest in a program specifically for your business, the creators of the software KNOW your world and usually provide what you need to look like a pro instantly. These features often include a contact management system, a ready built website, a blog, a predesigned autoresponder program, invoicing and so much more. They often offer a free trial for 30 days. Try it by adding a few sample clients to it and test it out. Warning, once again, if you are a true dinosaur, this will be very confronting – your job is NOT to learn it completely, but to know your options for future action.
  4. Seek out Freelancers – If you are really great at what you do and yet you aren’t great with marketing or social media, I hope you realize that your talents mean something. I always say, ‘you don’t have to do everything; you just need to get it done’. Learn who is out there serving people just like you – those who need help in marketing and technology. There are many sites where you can hire a freelancer, two of my favorites are fiverr.com (where most items are only $5) and Upwork.com (where you can hire a professional from all over the world at very affordable prices) You are NOT alone as a dinosaur and there are people who cater to you… REALLY
  5. Build your Team – Invest in outsourcing – You may be thinking, “I don’t have the funds to build a team”. I certainly understand that. I too have been in that predicament. I have been known to hire someone for just 2 hours a week until I could do more. Most of my trial people moved on to full time employees or outsourced professionals. Once you choose your team of desired business vendors, start outsourcing slowly. Choose a budget and find the largest need. Start with one freelancer at first and build as you get steadier.
  6. Join an existing team – As a former Realtor, I am often approached to coach new Realtors. Many of them are full-fledged self-starters and I am able to help them be autonomous in the business. However, there are those who are neither able to nor interested in doing all the facets of their industry. Or maybe they are not willing to put in all the hours that are necessary to build themselves. To those people I suggest they join a team of people who strategically work together where each provides a piece of the business puzzle. One may get leads, one may do leg work or review contracts and others may do administrative work. If you don’t want to build your own team, then join one. If you are a coach, join a coaching group. Chances are there is a co-op or group in your industry either locally or on-line.
  7. Hire a Coach – Speaking of Coach – Hiring a coach who can help you with resources, structure and motivation is always to your advantage. Look at how many successful people out there have their own coach. Why shouldn’t you? I will strongly suggest this however, many coaches go at their own pace and if you join a program of theirs and you are a dinosaur, chances are you will fall behind. Find a coach who will give you personal service and go at YOUR pace, not theirs.

These are just a few of the ways a ‘dinosaur’ can thrive in business. It’s possible and it’s done all the time. What you want to do is trust yourself if you feel inclined to build a business and trust that there is a way to get there in spite of your limitations. Just so you know; we ALL have limitations. A good business person typically does not do it ALL anyway. We don’t call them a dinosaur, we call them SMART!  So get smart and let someone else help you shine.

 

Fran Asaro is the founder of Thrive Any Way Personal and Business Coaching. Helping entrepreneurs thrive in all areas of their lives. Contact Fran at Fran@thriveanyway.com or go to www.thriveanyway.com

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Thriving with Feeling

It’s not a new concept that your thoughts are things. What you think about comes to you. As a Coach I run across many people who study the law of attraction, yet still find themselves short of their ideal life and outcome. Why is that?

It’s certainly not because one person deserves a better life then another. It could be however that a series of things are out of play.

Affirmations used to play a major role in personal development. We repeated wonderful declarations in hope for a better life.

Then we learned about direction of thought which seemed like Affirmations on steroids. If we thought about what we really wanted it would come to fruition.

After that, the concept of ‘Asking‘ became a new ingredient into the soup of making sure you express your desires. Make sure you are specific they said. (which is a bit different from my teaching – see below)

Then being open to  ‘receiving’ became the next missing link for those who still hadn’t gotten their just rewards. Know that you are worthy.

Since then, ‘aligning’ with your direct thought has become a major factor in the equation. Get into the vibration of what you want to manifest.

Are you getting tired yet? Is there an end to the formula? I am not sure. I am certainly an advocate and teacher of the law of attraction. I just want everyone to reap the rewards. So what could I possibly add to this plethora of tools to ensure that we create it all?

Well, I have a few things. Yes a few more things to add.

The first one has to do with my statement above about being specific. I have found many a person forcing themselves to be clear about what they want just so they can play the ‘game’ correctly. There they become committed to a certain amount of money, a definite type of partner or a home with all the details. If they didn’t get exactly that, they called the process a failure.

For years I have tried to lighten up the pressure of that type of commitment and asked my clients to instead get VERY SPECIFIC on how they want to FEEL when they get ‘there’. You see, we may not always know what we want but we ALWAYS know how we want to FEEL.

So my suggestion is that you align with a feeling and not a ‘thing’. Sit for a bit in silence and feel the way an ideal life feels. Peaceful, adventurous, easy, secure? There are so many choices based on your desires. For me, I love to feel ease, fun and freedom with abundant energy. Take a look and allow yourself to bask in the delights of the way you want to feel.

My second suggestion is that you bring frequency into the pot. What that means is, that you get the results directly related to the energy you put in. So if you allow yourself to feel your desired feelings for 5 minutes a day, and nothing is shaking… then do it more frequently. You deserve this.

 

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this is who I am this is what I do thrive any way fran asaro‘It’s who I am – It’s what I do’! My sister has been telling people that I was born to be a coach. She facetiously  says that I have been coaching since I was 3, and that people have been coming to me for coaching my entire life. That part is true.

So why then is she so surprised when she shares a dilemma with me and I come up with a solution? I’m not saying that I am right or that I should be doing this… I agree that some people just want to vent… But you know what, as I tell my sister every time it occurs, ‘It’s who I am – It’s what I do’!

So now this has become quite a joke between us… no matter what we do, if one of us is trying to change the other, we use that phrase. Even when it’s just plain silly. So when I talk too much or sing loud and awful and she comments or asks me to stop – my staple comment ‘It’s who I am – It’s what I do’! Try it on your people and have fun!

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falling in love with moneyMany of us have a poor relationship with money at some time or another and it’s often due to circumstances beyond our control. Maybe we lost a job or we had a family emergency that took us to our financial knees. Maybe we never learned how to manage money in the first place and our bank accounts are suffering or non existent.

Maybe you blame yourself for not doing enough or being enough to have a positive cash flow. Maybe you blame the world or someone close to you for being the reason you live in lack. Maybe you  think that making money is hard, impossible, or something that someone else has, but not you.

However, if you’ve ever read any spiritual books about money, you must have read that Money is energy and if we retrained ourselves to start the energy flow TOWARDS us instead of AWAY from us we would see a significant difference in our financial world.Wouldn’t it be nice to see money show up easily and without effort?

While attracting money is a simple exercise, it’s not that easy to just change thoughts when we can’t pay a bill or don’t see an end in sight with our debt. That’s why I created this MP3 for those who REALLY want to retrain their thinking but have so much negativity in their lives when it comes to money that they can’t think that positive or affirming thought. I wanted to make it easy to start the ball rolling.

Falling in Love with Money provides 150 Bold and Deliberate declarations with the Law of Attraction philosophy in mind.  It’s not for the faint of heart however. These are statements designed to empower you so be ready to feel a tug if you hear an affirmation that rattles that weak link of yours.   I am also including the PDF version of these affirmation to read along. The more you listen to this and read it, the more you retrain your thinking about money. The more you retrain your thinking, the more positive the results.

Have fun and enjoy loving and attracting loads of money!

Enthusiastically,

Fran

YES! Send me my copy of Falling In Love with Money Now

 

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The Invitation Oriah Mountain DreamerFor those that know me, this is one of my all time favorites to read to inspire my friends, clients and the women from my weekly group. I cry every time I read it because the words challenge me to my core. When we read this in my group, sometimes I have each person read a paragraph. Sometimes I read it myself so I can emphasize for impact. But I almost always ask which is the paragraph that hit them the most. It’s great to see the emotions and the connection as well as the inspiration. I invite anyone to do this with others for a moving time. I am privileged to share this on my page and hope you love it as much as I do.

The Invitation by Oriah
It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shriveled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved

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[tweetmeme]I know of a woman who allows her children to write on the walls of her home. When I questioned this she explained that she didn’t want to thwart their creativity and full self expression.

Being from a wonderful albeit structured family environment I had a hard time imagining myself condoning this exercise. I am a Life coach for goodness sake. I encourage my clients to live out loud and live a life by design – their own design. Wouldn’t that be the case for children too? So which is it then? Provide structure and strong guidance or support the ‘anything goes’ attitude?

Someone else I know feels that she was a square peg forced to fit into a round hole during her childhood. She wanted to dance and they asked her to sit and behave. She brought home animals and they asked her to stop. She thought differently from the rest, and they demanded she conform. Now in her late 50’s finds it difficult to stretch herself beyond her comfort zone and realize her visions.

I remember at 10 years old sitting next to a woman at a wedding. I had never met her and yet she spent a lot of time talking to me as if I was an adult. She looked in my eyes; She asked me open ended questions and made me feel like a star. I am eternally grateful to what she gifted me that day and have thought of her fondly ever since. I have also made it a point to do the same to other children.

Where in your childhood did someone profoundly impact who you are today?

Being a part of the growth of any child is an honorable task. What a gift to be able to support the individuality and identity of another. I suggest we step up a bit and see what we can do today to make a difference in a child’s life. Where can you challenge them to do something unique, say something they’ve never said, experience something they haven’t yet experienced? We may never know the impact that act has on them for life, however, I venture to think they will never be the same because of it. Dare yourself to be alive and kicking and pass that on to someone else.

Hmmm, I wonder, if my clients had the opportunity to draw on a wall or dance in the rain if they would have needed to come to me to learn how to live out loud!

Enthusiastically,
Fran

Fran Asaro is the CEO and founder of Thrive Any Way Personal and Business Coaching. For more information go to www.thriveanyway.com or call 828-FOR FRAN (828-367-3762)

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[tweetmeme]Often we find ourselves in a relationship that tugs at our patience. Whether it is due to incompatibility, intolerance, control or disrespect, some people sit uncomfortably with us or downright annoy us.

I remembering hearing for years how important it was to sever such relationships for self preservation. It was a way to relieve ourselves of all the discomfort. While at some level it made sense and still does, eventually you might find yourself disconnecting or running from anyone and anything that challenges you. In time, some of us begin to feel as though all we do is end relationships and wonder if severing is the only answer. Is that you?

There are times when we can’t or no longer want to cut the cord with others. This could be because they are family or co-workers, colleagues or friends. Whatever the reason, you are not willing or able to separate yourself from them. What do you do then? Stay miserable every time you are in their company?

There is another way. It may not be as easy as cutting them off, however, it could restore your sanity when cord cutting is not an option. Severing the AFFECT that others have on you keeps you in the driver’s seat of your life. Let’s face it; people will always get your goat. They will say and do things that annoy you, they will run you off the road, they will be embarrassing to be around and they will suck all of your energy. You can’t kill them all off. So the next best thing – maybe even the most self empowering action – is to release the affect they have on you.

Easier said then done? Yes, it takes practice and intention to carry this out. Once you commit to protecting your own boundaries emotionally and physically, others will no longer have the same impact on you as they once did. People can only affect you when you allow them to infringe on your personal boundary. When you stand strong on what you will and will not let into your own thoughts, feelings and physical self, you become the keeper of your mood, your power and your sense of well being.

Options – sometimes that’s all we need to know in order to feel better in these situations. Knowing that we can choose to sever or not provides a sense of relief. So, the next time you are feeling completely affected by someone else and severing is not possible, know you have one more resource. Know that you are in charge of your boundaries. Know that you can learn to rise above and even beyond the impact others have on you and your world.

Enthusiastically,
Fran
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